Dear friends, This is the place for you to share your thoughts about my books as well as your tips on writing. Please don't use this as a forum to discuss works by other authors, pro or con. There are plenty of places you can go for general book discussions. I'd like this to be a friendly place where you can get to know others who enjoy my books. Stir up a little controversy if something in a book bugged you, as long as it's done in a reasonably gentle way. Feel free to ask questions of me and each other. I'll sign on as frequently as possible to answer your questions. Okay, then...jump in anytime. Sherryl
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ChariDee
Member since Mar-19-07
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Mar-21-07, 10:52 AM (EST) |
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3. "RE: A slice of heaven"
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When I started reading this one, I'll admit I wasn't very fond of the way Dana Sue was behaving either, but then I realized it was probably because I'm not so sure I wouldn't behave that way myself. What woman wants to believe that their daughter has such a serious disorder, or that we aren't doing what's best for ourselves.
Plus, I wondered if I would have felt that way towards her if we didn't have Ronnie and Annie's POV's. We saw what those people in her life were feeling and we could sympathize with them. Dana Sue didn't have that insight, only past hurt and the possibility of a really scary future.
My daughter and my sisters daughter are on the verge of turning 5, and we've decided it's time to stop talking about our own body image in front of them. Nowadays, kids (especially girls) start worrying about their weight far too early, they don't need to hear momma's own insecurities and turning them on themselves. So far, my daughter doesn't seem to care, but my niece is far too concerned with her weight and others right now. That's scary.
So, I guess this was just a long way of saying, I understood Dana Sue, even if it took me a few chapters to get over my disgust. Chari-Dee
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Sherryl
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Mar-21-07, 03:14 PM (EST) |
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ChariDee...You raise a really important point about how younger and younger kids are learning about body image from mom's obsession with weight. Seems to me that I've heard Dr. Phil say more than once that a child's best role model is the same sex parent. We want them to model our good traits, but the reality is that kids can also pick up the bad...and may be more likely to take them to an extreme. Not only are eating patterns affected by this, but things like alcohol consumption and smoking too. At the same time, I suspect if parents worried excessively about how every action might influence their kids, they'd hide in the closet until their children reach adulthood. Since that's not an option, the only thing left is to be very aware that kids are looking to you for an example. There's a country music video -- wish I could recall the singer -- that nails that point perfectly. Anybody else seen it? The little boy uses some bad words and when dad asks where he heard that, the child says, "From you." But later in the song, when the boy says his prayers, he says he also learned that from Dad. Oh, the pressure!! |
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